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8 Tips For Planning A Stress Free Wedding
Anyone who has been married will tell you that, if you're not careful, it will get stressful. Believe me, I did it to myself too. So, to help you from making the same mistakes, I have compiled a list of what I would consider the Top Ten Tips for planning a stress free wedding... complete with pictures.
Tip #1 - Between the two of you, list your top three desires for a wedding, and prioritize.
My husband and I did this and I cannot express enough how important it was. As Women we can tend to act as if the entire wedding is ours and it needs to be how we dreamed it would be our entire lives. But you are getting married, NOT throwing yourself a party. Getting married means you work with your partner and consider their wants and desires, and compromise, BEFORE acting for yourself.
Tip #2 - Accept that you can't please everyone.
Often times you have a lot of voices giving input for how your wedding should go. Often times also, those voices can contradict one another. So take a deep breath and remind yourself that someone will leave butt-hurt. One thing you can do to weed out voices is ask yourself who is paying for this wedding? Is it mom and dad? If so you should honor what they feel is important. If they made it clear it was a complete gift with no strings attached, then you might have more room to veto some of their ideas. If you are paying then by all means do what ever you want. But if your maid-of-honor is telling you what you need to do and pretty much designing her dream day withyour money, you may consider putting your foot down. (Absolutely nothing against maid-of-honors FYI, I had one and they are awesome!!)
Tip #3 - Take time to enjoy each other's company during the planning process and wedding day.
This time is for you. Don't get so caught up in the process that you loose sight of your love and building each other up. Be silly, laugh, go on dates, don't get angry when he makes suggestions or wants to change things. PLAN YOU HONEYMOON. Seriously, it is the best part!
Tip #4 - All you need is Google Docs.
This is one I learned a little on the later side and it saved my sanity. When you are organizing a seating list for 300 people and you computer crashes... pull my hair out NOW. Ugh! So annoying. But if I had had google docs, nothing would have been lost. Not to mention you could access it from pretty much anywhere.
Tip #5 - Consider the environment when planning your wedding.
If you are outdoors you may have to be wary of things such as rain or wind and have a back up plan. If it is super hot, you will need extra waters... EXTRA, that means what you would normally need, plus more. If you are indoors, you need to know the rules for candles. If you are on private property you need to let neighbors know you are throwing a party and respect them with volume, as well as where you are parking everyone. Maybe tell the guests to carpool.
Tip #6 - Don’t get caught up in "perfection."
This event will not be perfect. Everything comes down to your reactions and your attitude. If you believe everything is going wrong, it will. If you shrug off that forbidden guest and welcome them like family, the day is perfect cause you chose it was perfect.
Tip #7 - Hire a day-of coordinator.
Maybe I should have made this tip #1... I also should just say straight up that you just need to hire a full on planner. And a day-of at the very least. This saves not only you as a couple's sanity, but also the sanity of your friends and family that might otherwise have to take on those tasks. If you need a coordinator check out NorCal Weddings HERE.
Tip #8 - Keep the big picture in mind.
At the end of it all, a goal is met. The goal that the both of you are now in a covenant relationship. Promising to put your spouse above yourself. That you, out of everyone in the world is committed to to their care and wellbeing. At the end of the day, you step into the rest of your lives as ONE.
I hope you find these tips helpful. If you did, be sure to share them with your brides-to-be so that they too can have a stress free planning process!
Article written by Katie Welin of Velours Designs